Dating Apps Profile
Well, in our days, I am pretty sure that in some way, we’re all familiar with online dating, whether you’re a millennial[1] or not. Online dating has been evolving from different platforms, but it is not what I’m writing today.
I am not really a fan of technology and constantly find myself struggling with, not because I’m not capable of using it, but because I’m fighting the idea of being “dominated” by technology or I am just lazy. I’m the “old lady” who prefers to wait months to read a hardcopy book, just not to read an electronic version, I just can’t!!! But oddly, when it comes to date, the online version has become my favorite or comfortable way of meeting people. Why? First because I can be shy, especially If it’s to approach a man I’m attracted to; second, if I’m not enjoying a conversation, my face and my speech most like will reveal “my secret” in a very unpleasant way, in my personal relations or conversations I can be automatically transparent; third, depending on the situation, in person I couldn’t be able to run as fast as I wished from an annoying situation, so being online allows to just to ignore – which I do not recommend, just be candid and honest. Fourth and final, I like meeting people from different places, virtually I can be anywhere anytime :). My disclaimer of course is to be alert to catfishes; don’t provide sensitive personal information in initial contacts (your address; where you work) or never (your income, bank details). And never send money for a person you never even met 😊.
In online dating, your profile is your “first appearance” and from all my years of experience with online dating, there a few profile types which I still can’t understand that’s what I want to share with you all today.
No profile pictures I mean… the first thing that calls our attention in another person usually is physical (visual), so if I can’t see you probably you shouldn’t be in online date anyway. Use someone else picture (well, not really) but it’s nice to see a face, not animals, furniture… like we’ll be so interested be those things to start a conversation… at least I won’t. If I wanted those things, I would be looking in proper websites/ platforms 😊.
No description at all / too much description: the first scenario well, unless you’re a Brad Pitt, George Clooney or Keanu Reeves, to catch us all only with you looks (see, I’m an old lady, with “old” handsome guys references), you should write something, even if only the things you don’t want, to save everyone’s time (thank you). The second scenario, I mean, no one is really looking for a biography, otherwise we would pick a book from a famous person, please write a summary of what you’re looking for (thank you). If we need to sell ourselves, well that just say that we most likely are beautifying it or it’s a lie. Balance is key, in everything. PS: I have one profile with too much information and one mostly with no information at all, so I’m not expert or anything, just commenting from an online date “profile visitors” perspective 😊.
Really Old teenagers: well, I’m pretty sure we all met at least 5 of those whose conversations are only about sex or sex curiosities. The sex topic is (at least for me) most of time interesting, especially if I would like to have it with you, it is helpful to be and to inform. But imagine talking about sex and nothing more with someone not appealing at all to you?!? “I’m horny”, “Send me a picture of your sexy body” “Do you like the picture of my p***s?” …oh Lord, it can be exhausting. Only a (not well informed) “teenager” does not know that most of the women are seduced mostly with involving words and gestures, not with explicit sexual images or conversation. I used to be really impatience with this type, and ignored or delete immediately, but today I must be honest, depending on my mood, I can entertain a conversation for minutes/ hours before I am ignoring/deleting. The other day, after an hour with one of these “really old teenagers”, I felt like I was teaching a sex education class to man older than me. I literally had to discuss and explain how pleasure works in the female sexual organ. Oh dear, aging is making me soft, I have proof of it every day.
Charming disappearance: That sign in the end of the tunnel, when you think you finally found someone great, handsome man, with manners, who knows how to carry a conversation. You talk for days, with a moderated interaction – not too much, not too little -, you talk about pretty much everything and he suddenly vanish. Maybe not suddenly, his presence starts to fade by the day, but you think it is just a moment, he might have something occupying his mind, and since you are also an occupied woman, it’s fine. Until you consciously – yes, because unconsciously you noticed before – realize that you are the one mostly doing the conversation. Once you stop engaging, the conversation barely happens. The good thing is, we are growing up, and hopefully, that doesn’t really bother us much as it did in the past, to the point that you would elaborate a dramatic text or have a need of reaction, begin for attention.
The professional: well there also those who think the profiles are form professional pages, where they display all their CVs as if we are looking for candidate from a job position. Of course, all women are interested to man with professional goals, plans, but in those pages/ apps, we mostly want to get to know the person beyond all job positions, professional tittles, and experiences. Well, I want a man with paycheck equal or higher than mine, but job titles are not important if the person per se is not a decent person. So, please remind yourself it is not a job interview, it’s an online date app/ site.
To wrap up, I hope you are not discouraged by my review, despite a couple of not good personal experiences, I am not, I am still believing in possibilities wherever, therefore, including in online dating. I personally know “success stories”. Please remember, a person who is not decent, won’t be decent person or virtually.
Are there other weird profile types you would like to share? Please do, I would love to read it.
Be brave. Be you. Be happy.
P
[1] Millennials, also known as Generation Y or Gen Y, are the demographic cohort following Generation X and preceding Generation Z. Researchers and popular media use the early 1980s as starting birth years and the mid-1990s to early 2000s as ending birth years, with 1981 to 1996 being a widely accepted defining range for the generation. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Millennials.