New Friends

Hello everyone!!!

I know it’s the end of January, but being my first 2022 post, I have to say I wish you a happy 2022!!

I hope everything is going well in January and you already had the time to set your intentions/ goals/ plans for 2022.

I’m starting my year in a different, pleasant way and already had the time to set my intentions for 2022. One thing I would like to share about the day I was setting my intention is that it was in the first full moon of the year, where I was there writing and admiring the moon beauty when suddenly a wonderful rainbow cloud appeared and stayed there, I guess for at least five minutes. It was a wonderful nature show, which I’m still trying to find someone who also saw it and if there is a scientific explanation for the phenomenon. No, I’m not crazy 😝 I have a picture to prove it and if you are familiar with the phenomenon please share with me. Anyway, returning to what brought me here today, to talk about some beliefs about friendship.

I don’t know about you, but I grew up hearing repeatedly that I shouldn’t trust people, friends because we don’t really know people and they can stab you in the back. Hearing that definitely made me not so open to friendship, even if not consciously. I trusted people but kind of always waiting for them to do something and I could confirm the belief. Only when was an adult woman I start reflecting on this and how I related with my friends.

As an adult other friendship belief I hear a lot is that the less friends you have the more real you are and the truer the friendship are. Unconsciously this also made me not so open to friendships because I should trust and keep those friends I already had regardless if the friendship was “valuable/ relevant” to me.

I can’t precise when I started doubting those beliefs but I can confirm that it was one of the best Mind shifting I had. Why?

First, let me say that I’m not encouraging being “naive”, absolutely trusting everyone at the first glance and invite them to your life, no. Surely, we can and should be “vigilant”, but also being open to meet and connect with new people. I think the more I know me, my values, likes/ dislikes, dreams, limits, etc., becomes more easy to recognize what I like and appreciate in others and with who I want to “go further”.

Second, I think if we pay attention, people in some way always show their “true colors” and intentions in our life. Like in every type of relationship, trust, space, openness, is conquered and we can analyze people’s behavior, efforts, coherence, etc. I’m intuitive and lately I also trust the energies I sense from people to decide if I want to “go further” and keep the person in my life or not.

Third, I think that somehow we are more encouraged to “try” as many times as necessary when it comes to finding love, but when it comes to friendship we should just keep those we have. For me, today, I see those two beliefs as limiting beliefs, aligned with scarcity. The idea that when cannot find or have someone else new in our life that can bring value to it, it is indeed limiting… the world is huge and there are so many nice people to meet and connect.

Since I opened myself for new conscious, connections I’ve been meeting really nice people, more and more people aligned with who I am today. I am really blessed with my old and “new” friends.

For me there is also another common belief which is that friendship doesn’t “ends” if there was not a relevant “fight”. I did not describe above because It was not part of the beliefs that influenced me growing up. Somehow I always had the thought that people are temporary in our lives and fortunately or unfortunately, letting people go wasn’t an issue for me. I understood that I used to be too drastic letting people go and I’ve been working on it, some connections do requires and deserves more effort. But it’s common to see people holding on to friendships were they grew apart or even when it’s toxic to them. Why? Well, I can dwell on this in another post.

Now, I wrap up with one my current favorite quotes related with this post, by Abraham Lincoln:

“Don’t forget, strangers are friends who you don’t know yet.” 

Share your thoughts with me.

Be brave. Be you. Be happy.

P